Build relationships with your child’s teacher; the head teacher and governors. Find out who will teach RE/RSE and talk to them about your concerns and religious values.
Join the PTA (parents & teachers association) and consider becoming a parent governor. The more involved you become the more likely you are to have an influence on school policy regarding RE/RSE.
Volunteer e.g. reading support; help out with arts week, interfaith events. It is important to become involved with the school in a positive way, so that way the school are more likely to listen to you when you voice your concerns.
Help out at events e.g. cake sales; summer fairs; fundraising events.
Write to your school expressing your concerns about RE/RSE & ask to be informed and involved at all stages of policy development.
Ask to see the resources the school proposes to use for RSE; ask how, when and where RE/RSE will be taught. You need to be informed and updated about RE/RSE in your school at each stage as your child progresses through the year groups.
Offer to make RE/RSE resources the school can use. Schools will either have to make their own resources or buy them in; if you make your own you are helping the school out and ensuring you have some control over the resources being used.
Exercise your right to withdraw your child from SRE/RSE. Explain your reasons to the school and to your child so that they understand.
Group together with other parents who share the same concerns, as a collective voice will more likely be listened to.
Consider sending your child to a faith school, ideally Islamic but otherwise Church of England or Catholic schools that share similar values. However check out their views on RE/RSE and how they will teach it first.
Donate some Islamic children books (e.g. on hijab, marriage, morals etc) to the school. There are numerous books teaching children about lifestyles at odds with Islam; but donating Islamic books to your child’s school you can help provide another viewpoint (see Resources section for some ideas).